Your penis is not perfect ... but all is not lost.
Guys, I’ll let you in on a secret … your penis isn’t perfect. Yes, it’s biologically sound and quite functional for purpose in that humans have managed to reproduce, but it’s not 100% perfect. If you need proof, you only need to ask your partner, particularly if he/she is being honest.
Somewhere in our evolution, the need for the male penis to truly satisfy your partner fell off the radar. It did what it was designed for, nothing more. Your partner may well have enjoyed the action, but satisfaction on their part, to whatever degree, is not going to be assured. Excuse the pun, but you’re using a tool for which their satisfaction was never an important consideration.
Of course, this may well have never occurred to you. You’re spent, and fall asleep happy in the knowledge that your partner must be just as contented as you are. Maybe they are, but more than likely they aren’t. Don’t get me wrong. Technique, enthusiasm, commitment, staying power and a myriad of other factors can all help, but you are still at the mercy of what tools you have to work with. With that in mind, you can see the problem of using only a biologically imperfect tool.
It’s not just you, it’s biology. It’s that same biology, however, which has led mankind (and womankind) to invent solutions to male shortcomings. Toys and accessories are well and truly available to enhance your play, and also make up for whatever biology has failed you on. And by the way, don't lose sight of the fact that vibrators were invented a century before man set foot on the moon.
Most importantly, no-one understands the inadequacies of male anatomy like your partner. So there’s nothing to feel disheartened about, unless you do nothing about it. The key point here is that your partner understands that you have your limits, but he/she will be a lot less likely to understand if you don’t do anything about it. Your tool mightn’t be good enough for all jobs, so it’s high time for you to start to look at what’s in your toolbox. So what’s in your top drawer?
If you’re thinking, “what toolbox?”, shame on you. Humans and lots of less evolved species on this planet use tools to make their life easier, and this is no exception. How much easier would your life be if you didn’t need to coerce or bribe your partner? How much easier would your life be if you didn’t need to wear yourself raw for hours, out of love or obligation, pushing your body to the point of collapse until your partner gets “there”, fakes it or just says “enough”?
If you’re thinking “my partner only needs me”, you need to back up and read again. Your penis isn’t good enough to stimulate everything perfectly in (or on) a male or female partner because it’s not designed to. It might do an OK job, or it might do it well, but it won't do it perfectly and no amount of pounding will make up for it's biologically imposed limitations. Before you met, your partner was unlikely to have spent any time dreaming of the solution to his/her frustration as being the size, shape, girth and prowess of your penis. The reality of it is that your partner may well have used toys or tools, and the need for them didn't disappear when you came on the scene.
If you're thinking your partner will end up choosing "tools" over you, perhaps you need to give yourself some credit. How often have you done something for your partner's sexual satisfaction only for it be poorly received? Never, I'll bet. When you last did something for your partner's sexual fulfilment, how good was the impact on your relationship? I rest my case.
So how can your biologically limited penis be complimented? I'm so glad you asked. Critics might well argue with me, but I'm going to classify just some of the toys and tools on offer as available to both gay and straight among us.
Dildos. Arguably the simplest of tools out there to complement or stand in for your tool, they prove the fact that your penis is a good design ... even if it's not perfect. Available in a range of sizes and materials, often they are penis shaped, but with the distinct advantage of not going soft. Not only can they be used on their own, but they can also be used with harnesses to allow no end of fun, and also role reversal.
Vibrators. The shapes and capabilities of the latest vibrators absolutely need to be experienced and brace yourself to have your expectations shattered. Especially considering their size, not only can some of them "vibrate" to the point of potentially challenging building foundations, but many of them can move and convulse in a way to arouse and excite like your penis never can. They don't need to strictly adhere to biology either, so the humble penis shape is often replaced with an improved form better suited to only satisfying your partner.
Balls and Eggs. If only your penis was detachable and round, you'd be left with a device which could be inserted and enjoyed, especially if they also vibrate. Women have long enjoyed this simple shape, and not surprisingly men are catching up in their appreciation.
Plugs. Gay or straight, male or female, butt plugs are something many are yet to experience and enjoy.
And there's more, so much more.
The point is that if you've been of the impression that your penis is the be all and end all for your partner, you're very wrong. But all is not lost, and like many a therapist has probably said, admitting you've got a problem is the first step, and thereafter it's up to you to do something about it. The best part, however, is that you too will benefit either directly or indirectly from many of these toys.
Of course, Top Drawer Essentials has a great range of toys to suit everyone from the beginner to seasoned users. We've got dildos, vibrators (battery, rechargeable and mains powered), masturbators, plugs, cockrings, balls and eggs, etc etc. We only stock quality products and of course we ship throughout Australia. While you're here, you can also stock up your top drawer with condoms, dams, lubricants and more.
And of course, Top Drawer Essentials can offer suggestions if you like. After all, we are all about safe sex, solo sex, fun sex and better sex.
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