Essentials from the Top Drawer

  • At least this can't be blamed on men!

    I was reading some articles on ABC Life recently and I was most interested in an article by Kellie Scott entitled 'More orgasms for women: It's time to close the masturbation gap'.  That women aren't embracing masturbation like men do is no surprise, disappointing and sad, sure, but not really a surprise.  What did come as a shock was the revelation that only one in four Australian women masturbate regularly, and that masturbation is largely uncommon in young women. No-one is liable to be more disappointed in that statistic than men. 

  • What if you can't?

    Sometimes the questions Top Drawer Essentials gets are worthy of sharing, anonymously of course.

    We recently received a query as to whether 'adult products' from Top Drawer Essentials are covered by the National Disability Insurance Scheme (NDIS).  It's a great question and the short answer is no, the NDIS doesn't, currently, extend to covering any of a number of products and services related to sexuality.  But ...

  • It's that time of year.

    It's that time of year.  Year 12 is the most important year of a secondary school student's education and they know it, and now is the action end of that final year.  No pressure or anything, but how well they can commit to their study and the associated exams will ultimately dictate what they (can?) do next.  Remember when you were in that situation as the student? Remember just how stressful it was? Remember how you relieved that stress? 

  • Everyone needs a friend like Kevin

    I walked in late to a conversation the other night at a social gathering.  Men and women just talking and then I started to hear all the virtues of a friend named 'Kevin', who I'd never met but another friend had.  The guy sounded like superman: powerful, resilient, capable, and soon enough all the men all wanted to meet (or kneecap) this Kevin, while the women all coo-ed in admiration.  It took me a while to appreciate they were talking about a vibrator, affectionately known as 'Kevin'.
  • The Censored Advocate

    I've been called lots of things in my time, but most recently I've been labelled a 'masturbation advocate'  In fact, I'd argue that I'm not really advocating for masturbation so much as suggesting that people's masturbation might be improved with some products offered for sale by Top Drawer Essentials.  However, perhaps what makes Top Drawer Essentials different is that we are fiercely pro-masturbation, sex with a partner too, but we recognise that solo sex is arguably just as important. 

  • In my partner's body

    I watched an old-ish Australian movie the other day, 'Dating The Enemy', in which a struggling couple magically wake in each other's bodies.  I know that premise is far from original and I can think of at least a few similar movies... because it's a popular fantasy. If I suddenly woke in my partner's body, once the hours with a mirror enjoying my new biology passed, or I accepted the banality of being able to pee standing up, what would I do?  What would you do?


  • Alan is one of my heroes.

    Alan MacMasters is widely accredited with the invention of the electric toaster in 1893, and he's one of my heroes.  Admittedly, I do like toast, but his invention represents so much more. 

    I like innovation, and I like how it's applied to everyday things, and adult toys are no exception.  If anything, adult toys are amongst the best examples of the application of innovation.

  • Don't leave home without it.

    Whether you are fly-in-fly-out (FIFO) or a more traditional seasoned work traveller, once you get back to your hotel or donga after a day working, you appreciate that there's a lot of time or opportunity until you wake to do it all again. Those 'what to bring' or packing lists for travellers never mention that it's always a good idea to bring something for your solo time and it pays to be prepared for those long lonely, isolated hours.


  • How about some respect for the hand!

    This being International Masturbation Day, let's take the opportunity to reminisce about the glorious role that masturbation has played in all our lives, and make no mistake, it has played a role in all our lives, and in the lives of all our ancestors too.  It's the 'M' word that you've undoubtedly been intimately familiar with since puberty, and since then it's sure to have been a regular part of your life, and/or routine.


  • We are not animals ...

    Humans masturbate, and we're not the only ones.  So before you start getting all uppity about how much better than monkeys we are, maybe you need to take a good look at how you pleasure yourself.


  • It's time.

    Sooner or later, you're going to buy a toy for your sexual enjoyment, and whether it's a first time purchase or a replacement, you need to understand your many options. What are the options? What do you look for?  Where to begin...


  • Your penis is not perfect ... but all is not lost.

    The male penis is an undeniably great design, but evolution hasn't led it to be perfect to satisfy your partner 100% of the time.  Luckily, evolution has compensated us with the brains to invent tools to address our other biological shortcomings.  It's time to embrace and enjoy those tools.